Actress Chike Ike wrote an open letter to her fans, described her marriage as war-front. She talks about the physical abuse she suffered in the hands of her husband, and many more.
Read her story below…
The past three years have been a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to build back my self-esteem. It’s been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I’ve been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I’ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve that there’s really no right time because every second of the day, lives are being lost due to domestic violence. I was a victim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.
Growing up as a girl. I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage, I didn’t understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no typos. It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions, after every beating he pleads , cries and says it won’t happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him. Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other definitions for it. I started loosing my self-pride, self-esteem , self-worth, and most painfully I lost a pregnancy (Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the process then I realized how serious and abnormal it really was.
I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story, I guess that’s why they are ignorant. I was 20 yrs old and very naïve to the world when I got married .“ They said I married for money“ LOL. I was married to a corporate guy, who had a 9_ 5 job in a bank, Lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe.. So do the maths! . I married for love. I did a traditional wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding. So that’s how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the camel’s back was during a heated argument he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.
Am not saying this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and beliefs. Also I am not saying this to discourage people from falling in love because it’s a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real.
If what she said are true, O girl run for your life! Domestic violence is worse!!! Well, we won’t pass judgment till we hear from the man…
The truth is that all this new generation actress from omutala to Jenny them. Non of them we last in there marriages because they love money so much and how on earth do you expect a lady who is making money more then the husband to respect him. She will not because she feel the husband can not control her again and of course guys we not agreed on it and that she will use as reason and runaway from the marriage, since she can get her self a car or a house and use that opportunity to sleep with politicians and make big money from them. Get there self a young guy who can satisfied her on bed so what do you expect from her. She most see a reason to divorced you.
it is a pity if it really happen to her but all i know is that after the money started rolling in she forgot all about the respect that she was to suppose to give to her husband i know that is what this our attrecss do to their husband
You what are you even saying it has happened 2 me and I did same to save my life, pls some men are animals and so annoying. Pls my dear just go to God and ask for his wisdom and carry on with your life ok.
I am not in a position to judge u but most of our ladies are ingrates. Once they begin to make small money they will start seeing all the errors in their men.u just gave urself a reason to quit ur marriage.how many times did ur inlaws or ur own parents interceded? U can lie to us but between u and God, u kno the truth