Letter To Aniema: ” Me, too old, am just 42 while she’s 30 for crying out loud” A Heartbroken Man Speaks Out

Our first two stories of Letter to Aniema were from female fans that shared the bitter/sweet experiences of their love stories but in the game of love there are two parties; consisting of the male and the female parties and it’s no secret that either one of them can be at the receiving end of the bitter pill of love. In this episode we received a letter from a male fan based in the United States, who wants us to share his experience and probably get wise counsel or suggestion from our dear readers. Read his story below and drop your comments.Please, check for our previous stories to share your suggestions/comments too, thank you.

“Dear Aniema, I’ve been looking for an opportunity like this to share my story and probably get to see people’s reactions in the case, if they happen to be in the situation I am facing right now and learn from there. Aniema, sorry to say but some women are devilish, cold-hearted social climbers and self-centred.

If I had known that the girl I practically picked up from the street, nurtured, sent to school and polished to standard will now turn around to call me an old man and too boring for her to settle down with, I would have left her where I met her and passed on as other people did. My name is Kenneth and am based in the United States, New York precisely where I work as a construction engineer in a multinational construction firm. I met Caroline in a busy street in N.Y, singing for alms. It was not her voice that got me attracted but the hidden beauty in her that needs a little polishing. She was poorly dressed and was playing the guitar while her hat was on the floor and passers-by were dropping a few pennies, a dollar or two in it. I moved closer, and in my eyes she was an angel, instead of me to drop money into her hat as expected, I dropped my business card and made sure she saw me doing so before I left the scene and went about my business. I waited all through that week for her call then the following week and when I was giving up on her ever calling I got a call from her.

We met the following day and I got to know that she escaped from the woman that brought her into the country when she got to discover that the woman had plans quite different from the purpose she told her and that she was squatting with a friend she met on the street and that she couldn’t get a job so had to resort to playing in the street to survive for the meantime. There and then I made up my mind to help her and make her mine. And luckily too she was Nigerian like me, I cleaned her up, got her a small apartment then later got her living with me in my house. Along the line, we started dating and before I enrolled her at the university to study financial management, I made my intentions to marry her known to her which she gladly accepted and promised not to disappoint me.

Two years down the line, we got engaged and the fourth year after graduation which was early this year, I informed my parent to get things ready for our home coming and our traditional marriage and everything was set pending our arrival. But I was dazed beyond words when Caroline walked into my office last month to inform me that she was no longer interested in marrying me and that am too old and too boring for her liking and that she has found someone else that rocks her world. Me, too old, am just 42 while she’s 30 for crying out loud but when I was spending my money on her ,then, I wasn’t old or is it because I don’t permit her new frequent clubbing lifestyle that makes me boring? Tell me Aniema,how do I tell my family about this, given the fact that they have made the finishing arrangements for our arrival in line for our traditional marriage? I have begged and sent her friend to speak on my behalf but she wouldn’t listen. Her friend has been giving me the green light and has been coming to comfort me but am too hurt and heartbroken to consider her. Please, I need your advice, what do I do in this situation? Help me!”