I had a threesome and got pregnant but both men want me to get a termination

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A letter to Coleen (UK Mirror) from a reader, and as interesting as it is, we decided to share it here too…

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A few weeks ago, my fiance and I decided to experiment a little bit in the bedroom. We’re both very open-minded and not shy when it comes to sex. We ended up having a threesome with a close friend of his and now I’m pregnant. I don’t know if the child belongs to my fiance or his friend. I’m only six weeks at this moment.

I’ve wanted a child for many years and had been growing disheartened as, while we weren’t counting down the days and minutes until ovulation, we hadn’t been using contraception for well over a year and nothing had happened.

Having always suffered from polycystic ovary syndrome, I knew my chances of conceiving naturally weren’t good. Only a couple of months ago our doctor said he’d have to refer us to a specialist given that we’d been trying to conceive for more than a year.

My fiance’s friend knows I’m pregnant. He also has a partner and I’m not sure if she knows but he has said that he wants me to have an abortion. My fiance has told me to have a termination, too.

I had an abortion when I was 20 and it always kept me wondering, “what if that was my only chance?” I’m now nearly 34 so this may actually be my final chance. I love my fiance and want things to work out but everyone seems to keep forgetting I didn’t have the threesome on my own and this is my baby.

Regardless of whether the child is biologically linked to my fiance, I don’t see any reason why he can’t love him or her. Gay parents, adoptive parents and parents who’ve used egg or sperm donors don’t love their kids any less – why should he?

Please help. Should I have a termination and hope one day I’ll have a child? Should I keep the baby and hope it belongs to my fiance? Or should I run away and raise the child on my own?

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Delia Innoma is a prolific writer, promoter, artist manager with full professional proficiency in English, German and Igbo languages. She studied accounting and computer programming at the Institute of Management and Technology Enugu and Germany respectively. Delia is also a devoted mother of two and she founded the Diamond Celebrities Magazine. Her sense of responsibility and commitment to the Christian faith are essential forces driving her daily activities.

8 Responses to “I had a threesome and got pregnant but both men want me to get a termination”

  1. Unknown's avatar
    eze maduabuchi cosmas Reply October 27, 2015 at 05:25

    please do not take any advice 4rm anybody over terminating the baby…this maybe last chance for you thanks

  2. Unknown's avatar

    Just keep it you never know the child my take care of you in future

  3. Unknown's avatar

    Incomprehensibility. How can you be helped ?

  4. Unknown's avatar

    U should run away n take care for yourself maybe this is ur last chance, remember had l known is always atlast

  5. Unknown's avatar

    Stupid idea! Anyways na una sabi. Poor baby from such useless parent.

  6. Unknown's avatar

    I would advice she keeps the baby because sometimes men can be selfish and if youbterminate the pregnancy and you finally get married to him or he decides to marry someone else,what guaranty do you have that you will have another child?and I feel the guy in in question is sterile,so keep your baby,my candid advice.

  7. Unknown's avatar

    lol, you don enjoy finish, so carry your cross alone

  8. Unknown's avatar

    You guys are just silly

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